Good morning five minute families. In our Sunday school lesson this week we were discussing the Old Testament families of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob. Throughout the Bible those names are repeated, even into the New Testament. Let’s explore one of the many lessons that come from those names and their family dynamics.

If I was planning a story that highlighted good family dynamics, I would not have written it like the biblical narrative. But God! The depth of God’s word in showing who He is and who we are is amazing. God, creator and sustainer, made us in His image. We have talked about that. We have, unfortunately, distorted that image with our fallen nature. Yet God planned, even from the beginning, to help us in our depravity.

Let’s pick up the story with Esau, and although he is not one of the three names highlighted, he is a pivotal part of God’s story. You can find this story in Genesis starting in chapter 25. A quick background: Rebekah is the wife of Isaac who was pregnant with two children, and as the Bible says, two nations. Esau was born first with Jacob right behind him holding Esau’s heel.

Fast forward several years. Esau, being the first born, traditionally would have the birthright that would guarantee his inheritance of his father’s possessions and authority. We have heard it taught that Esau didn’t care about that birthright and in fact demonstrated this by giving it to Jacob for a bowl of stew. That was the agreement between brothers. But it really took manipulation and treachery to actually pull the blessing from Isaac to Jacob, not Esau. What God revealed to Jim in our Bible lesson was that maybe Esau did care for his birthright and was instead blindly showing his false confidence in that no matter what just transpired with the bowl of stew he would still receive Isaac’s blessing because he had favor with his father.

What can we learn as a family about the false confidence of Esau and how his story intersects with our lives? This lesson will take a lot of self-examination and soul searching and we suggest looking into these aspects of family life:

Are we relying on the faith of our father, mother, brother, sister? I have heard many people say “grandma took me to church and I heard many of the stories, but now I live a good life and know that because grandma is praying for me, I am ok.” Our family of origin, even if it has a strong faith history, will not carry us into a relationship with Jesus as savior. We see in Ezekiel 18 that God rightly judges individuals and does not connect them positively or negatively with their family members.

Much like our family of origin, our nurture – that is the surroundings we grew up in, learned from, and often imitated – can lead us down wrong paths that give us both positive and negative levels of confidence. We can see an example of how Timothy was nurtured spiritually by his mother Eunice and grandmother Lois. He was trained to know and honor the Lord. But he did not stop there, and through mentoring and discipleship he learned more about God and was able to disciple others like himself. Thankfully he did not rely only on their teachings.

Looking back at the Esau narrative, we can see that he wasn’t prepared. He relied more on his performance and lived in the praise of his father overseeing everything that was happening around him. Life surrounds us and satan prowls around like a hungry lion looking at who he can devour. We must prepare for whatever may come our way and be intentional in our relationship with God and the discipleship of our families.

To dig deeper, we can even see that our very genetic makeup influences our beliefs and behaviors. Are there certain ways your parents relate, and although they did not teach you those techniques, you find yourself mirroring them? We see this in the patriarch stories with the example of Abraham lying about his wife being his sister, and later Isaac repeating that same situation. I don’t think that was taught behavior but somehow it was a repeated family trait. Genetic? Possibly. Characteristics of a specific family? Definitely. This can be a challenge to explore as a family with many difficult eye opening revelations, but with the right intention, it can be a rewarding adventure.

And finally, where does your family gain confidence? Our hope and confidence is on the sovereignty of God. His goodness and mercy have followed us all the days of our lives as we seek to dwell in the house of the Lord forever. We see in John 10:29, “My Father who has given them to Me is greater than all; and no one is able to snatch them out of my Father’s hand.”

Do you and your family know the hope of salvation Jesus brings? Are there areas we can all grow and learn? of course. But God is rich in his mercy towards us and reaches out to provide His grace for all our needs. Families, seek His grace and learn from Him for He is good! Be blessed.